My Chess ELO has risen to 1200 but I can confirm that in life I am still getting beaten with my very own Idiot Stick.
Since Monday 13-March, my day has been dominated by the emotional side of my brain.
Task orientated things are being missed and delayed. It’s great to plan for ones’ future but the here and now requires me to wake up.
My idiot stick has always been Love. It makes me do things I wouldn’t ordinarily contemplate. I’ve chased Fool’s Gold and been left standing there afterwards trying to figure out where I went wrong only to go do the same thing again and again.
Now how do I balance and master both emotional and logical?
Think about the Data Processing cycle and compare to a personal situation
Throughout the entire process feelings of Happiness, Trust, Fear, Confusion and basic Rage co-exist with the devastating danger of a failed process.
Collection – Here’s my number…call me Recording – Are you filming me? Organizing – Did you post that on social media? Selecting - Let’s put together a photo gallery? Retrieving – I can't find the pictures Comparing – Are these duplicate pictures? Communicating – I want all the pictures you have of me Disseminating – I don’t care how you send them …and Erasing – How do I know you deleted them?
3 methods to avoid relationship data disaster
1. Plan and set the ground rules upfront – tough to embrace at the “Happiness Romance” stage (Collecting and recording Data).
2. Ask for what you want – Draw clear lines early, scope out what you want and how you want it
3. Assume that there will be an “End”. Get ready to DELETE the DELETED.